I had the opportunity to chat with a group of High School students from across the state. I had a lot of fun discussing leadership pointers, careers paths and sharing with them my ever-changing journey. One of the students asked me what I was like in High School. I have never been asked that before but it brought back lots of fond memories and a few memories that were character building experiences for me as a youngster. I am certain I lost “Cool Points” (yes several of them said I was a cool adult, which made my hour, I am not typically called “COOL”) when I shared this with them.
This is for all of my young cool kid friends, that I am so glad I have and I think most of you know who you are.
Parents may seem like pretty uncool people at times when you have to follow their rules, some of which seem so lame. In a few years you are going to realize how SMART they were and are, and just how much they truly want(ed) you to succeed. This is why they set rules and boundaries. Your parent’s job is not to be cool or really even be your friend. Parents start you on a path that they know they will soon lose control. We try our best to set you on the straight and narrow.
What I was like in High School…those who knew me back then feel free to comment or maybe correct me with my view of myself as a teenager.
I have great parent’s, I am blessed to as an adult call them my friends. (Thanks Mom and Dad) I always respected them and as an adult respect them even more. Never did I want to disappoint them as a child and I fully understood my actions were a direct reflection on them. I am sure I missed out on a lot of fun because I was worried about what my parent’s would say, but looking back I know it was a good thing.
Still to this day I often catch myself thinking “what would my parents say?” I talked to my mom about most everything as a child. Back in the third grade, I got a phone call on our home land line from a boy named Vincent. My mom passed the phone to me (it was a corded phone…with a very long cord so my mom could be on the phone yet still grab us when we were little). Vincent wanted to know if “I would go with him”. I put him on hold as every third grade girl would do right???, and said “Mom, Vincent wants to go with me”. My mom said with a smile on her face “Ask him where he wants to go?” So that is what I did and Vincent hung up the phone. I have no idea what has happened to Vincent but we never did go anywhere. I did however learn that moms and dads will always know just what to say when you need a little help. My parents gave me the tools to become independent and take challenges head on. All I had to do was sharpen those tools and learn to put them to their best use. If only it was that easy! Start writing down your list of goals and while your path to those goals may change, never give up. You may have to realign your goals but you can achieve anything you set your mind to accomplish.
They say “Well-behaved women seldom make history” …I may not be cut out for history making!
I was that girl who would get off bus 15 and the bus driver would ask if the boys in the back were behaving. Call me a snitch but I would always tell her the truth as I jumped off the bus. I was voted “Most likely to be taken home to meet the parents” in High School and I was completely ok with that. Friends said I was the obvious choice for this vote, and I can remember telling myself “In 15 years you will be proud to tell your children you were liked among the parents.” The only detention I ever got was from my dad, he was my teacher and the craziest thing I did freshman year of college was come home with my cartilage pierced not once but two times! Wowza I was a wild child!!!
Now, I was not a perfect child, in fact if you asked my dad he would say I was bossy and domineering (man I still dislike that word). Some have even called me intimidating. Yikes, those are harsh words that sound terrible but I can now say, I will claim those words used to describe me. I have slowly learned to own who I am.
If you don’t like the way something is, then fix it. It is ok if not everyone likes you and it is ok to make mistakes, everyone does. When you realize this, it is amazing how you can enjoy life and appreciate all the little things that come your way. Start really living your life!
I decided to challenge myself and stop living in my little bubble that was stagnant and that yes occasionally judged people. I had become content with ok is good enough when in all reality this is not the way my parents raised me. I stopped wishing for things and put a plan in place for what my goals were.
It has been a long journey full of amazing opportunities, once I stopped worrying about what others may think or what if I fail and focused. Lets be real, there have been some really tough times of disappointment, losing and doubt, but there have been some amazing and challenging times.
So get up off your duff and start challenging yourself and write down your goals and ambitions! Do not be afraid to fail and make mistakes. Enjoy your life, if you do not like the path you are headed then go ahead be bossy, domineering and maybe a little intimidating. Be sure you are headed on a path that not only reaches your goals but uses all the tools your parents equipped you.